Trusting Your Friends

A small blurb on trust.  

Have you ever trusted your friends with a really important secret?  Or you asked them to do something for you and they promised they would?  I think you know where this is going.  

If you find out that they betrayed your trust or anything like that your reaction will be something like this, "I thought you were my friend!  What the heck!  How can I trust you with anything else?"  Here's some advice from me about what to do.  I trusted my friends with something and I freaked out when I found out that they broke their promise.  I was literally shaking when I found out.  I had no idea what to do.  They had an explanation that proved that they were true friends.   Here are a few tips from me when you find out that they broke a promise. 

Levels of being concerned:

How concerned you should be about it:

* level one = Should not be that concerned about it.  Example: Told someone you peed your pants in the second grade.  This is the past.  Doesn't matter.  You were a little kid.  Whatever!

** level two = Mildly concerned.  Example: Spread a rumor about you.  Sensible people know that most rumors are false.  Not many people will go crazy about it.

*** level three = Concerned.  Example: Told your crush you like her.  The girl will probably think 1.) No he doesn't. 2.) If he does, he won't like me after someone said he does.  3.) Just a dumb rumor.  So chances are, guys, everything will turn out ok.  

**** level four = Very concerned.  Example: Told your crush you like him.  Since I'm a girl, I would be very concerned.   

1.)  DO NOT FREAK OUT.

Four simple little words, right?  When I say freak, I mean do not go crying in a corner or shaking in front of the computer screen like you are freezing.  Just act very calmly and assess the situation.  It's a probably a very trivial matter that does not even matter.  

2.)  What's up?

 Ask your friend why they broke the promise they made.  It could be a very sweet reason: I just wanted you to be happy!  Since they wanted you to be happy, they were doing a real nice thing.  They weren't trying to make you upset.  They were only seeing a good outcome not a bad outcome.  If they were mad at you about something.  Talk it through with them.  It could end up being just one big misunderstanding. 

3.)  Think it over.

I said in tip number one, "Assess the situation."  This means: what could that person/people think about it?  Why did they do it?  Why did they break their promise?  Will this affect me that greatly?  Is the world going to end?  What am I going to do after this?  Will this affect my friendship?

4.)  Piece of advice.

If it's a level one thing and you freak out about it.  You will be affecting your friendship with that person more than this thing is affecting you.  Just calm down.  This will not affect you that much!

Basically:  The world is not going to end.  Relax.  You may leave the fallout shelter.  Get a glass of water and go to the movies with your friends.    

My friends:  It was sweet that you guys did that and understand my feelings.  Just next time, please respect my wishes!  ;)

What Is Life?

     How many times do people ask this question in a week?  Or should I say, a day?  Everyone searches for the meaning of life, what life is, etc.  Well life can be many things.  For you people, who are all about science, life what makes us live.  Life can be a newborn baby.  Life can be a passing breeze.  Life can be the coat that has been in closet for three years and it has come back in style.  People think they know what life is, when truthfully, none of us do.  
Most of us just keep following our schedule and sometimes just keep moving on with our day.  I, unfortunately, do not have this luxury.  I constantly think I am just a person in a book, then I realize I am not.  That's when I pause and start asking why questions.  Why questions are irritating.  They interrupt me all the time and ask impertinent questions.  Some of these questions are: "Why am I here?""Why was I given this life?""Why did Eve eat the forbidden fruit, forcing us to go to school everyday?""Why must I act like this?""Why are we the important species?""Why can't wolves or another species be the important species?""Why is there war?""Why did God make us so complicated?"  These are truly joyous questions.  
     No one is quite sure how to answer them.  I want to tackle questions like these and points that we all reach in life.  I write for children, teens, parents, grandparents, writers, painters, architects; I write these posts for everyone.  I plan making this blog a reference for people when they want "the other" opinion.  I wish to help and learn while I write.  I want to change the world through my writing.  Life brings us challenges and I want to counter these challenges with new thoughts and ideas on the subjects.  
    To me life is something that makes us get up every morning.  Something mysterious that no one knows much about.  Life is a mystery that we all need to solve.  It's a mystery book that has no true ending.  It's always different.  You can quote me on that.    

Trends on the Runway: Are They Worth It?

          Some trends on the fashion runway are a little, shall we say, expensive.  What I do not understand about these designers is that they seem to target the average consumer while placing high prices on their clothes.  If someone says to me that this is the high price of fashion, I get that.  But what makes some of these ridiculously looking clothes fashionable?  When you look at some of these designs, think to yourself, "Would I wear it?"  

          The 2010 Fall Collections of many designers are very expensive.  One designer, Akris, has some clean-cut clothes at a high price.  They range from 1,000 something dollars to 200 something dollars. Burberry Prorsum's outfits are in the thousands.  Is it worth it to wear these clothes for which you are paying so much when you might find something close at a thrift store for 2 dollars?  I walked into a consignment shop, and there were some famous designer clothes there for 10 dollars or 15 dollars.  So, I repeat the question, is it worth it? 

          Most of the dresses that people buy today are worth one wear and then they are shoved to the back of the closet.  I think that's a waste of money.  When you buy clothes, you are meant to wear them more than once.  If you are looking for a really beautiful dress that you are planning to wear to multiple important gatherings AND you have the money to spare (when I say money to spare, I mean more than the usual amount),  look at BCBG Max Azria.  Prices are in the hundreds. Another designer who has plenty of unusual patterns (for those of you who love patterns) is Diane von Furstenberg.  Prices are also in the hundreds.  For the "average Jane," there are some nice modest dresses in J.C. Penny.  I guess...

          I have one more thing to add.  If you want to buy some of these designer dresses and clothes, go to overstock.com.  "The O" has great bargains.  If it is a problem for you to wear clothes that are from last season (gasp!), then you need to read some of my prior posts.